Cliff remembered: What I said at his memorial-
I’ve known Cliff longer than anyone in this room.
We met in third grade in Lexington, in 1956. We weren’t close right away because he was more athletic and social than I was, but in junior high school we both got involved in a Jewish youth group and became fast friends. We explored our faith, as well as our fascination with girls, and the emerging hippie and folk counterculture in Cambridge, in its many manifestations.
He used to spend quite a lot of time at my house even though my mother thought he was a bad influence. Indeed, he came back from boarding school when we were both 16 and introduced me to marijuana, a habit we shared for most of our lives.
After I moved to Santa Barbara in 1968, he came to visit me and my girlfriend, and lived with us for a time, but then he got involved in Isla Vista, the community next to the university—settling there, eventually much longer than I did. When I married in 1970 he was my best man—and he was my best man for life. Over the years of our lifelong friendship he meditated many of the struggles between me and my many relationships.
Although we never shared his eventual commitment to The Friends, our friendship transcended that. It was forged early, in a deep love and affection, and grew over a lifetime of common experiences and deliberate mutual commitment.
We had silly nicknames for each other— He was Cliffy-Wiffey and I was Alley-Walley or sometimes, just Sav.
I don’t remember when he stopped wearing shoes, but I can tell you, when he was young and fit, he played aggressive tennis barefoot on asphalt courts, and he often beat me.
Shoeless, he left a large footprint.
I admired his courage to speak his mind and his ability to speak and write articulately, poetically and forcefully about his feelings and convictions. Later in our lives I was pleased to host one of his poetry readings at my home. His videos on YouTube are from that event. He was a gifted writer.
He could be eloquent and annoying, opinionated and funny all at the same time.
In the early 1970’s he founded The Town Crier, a weekly newspaper in Isla Vista and I joined this effort as his partner. It closed eventually for various reasons but Cliff, both before and after, was a controversial local politician, then a restaurant impresario there, with a pizza parlor and a popular coffee house for some years after I returned to Boston.
He was far from perfect those days. He put much of his profits up his nose, he told me, lost his businesses, and treated many women badly. When he was 37 he chose celibacy because, he said, “I don’t want to hurt any more women.”
When he eventually moved back East, The Quaker Community here changed him forever. I think it challenged his sense of integrity and purpose.
We renewed our friendship with regular get togethers, often dinner, a joint, and a science fiction movie. Otherwise, our lives could not have been more different—His quest was for truth and a simple life, and mine was for comfort and adventure, but we remained devoted to our love for each other.
I was sad when he moved to Kansas but understood him wanting to be near family. I resolved to visit and got to do so a few times, one of which included a road trip from Wichita to Denver, during which we relived many of our crazy times together over our long and circuitous lives.
I will miss him mightily. My best friend, a lifelong friend, a more deeply intelligent, sincere, and stubborn person who knew me better than anyone, and can never be replaced in my life. I still cannot imagine a world without him in it. He made my life richer and deeper and he will be missed.
It’s coincident that we celebrate him today. In 1989, on this date, he read his poetry to a Meeting in this room. He was born in May, I knew, but he would never tell me the exact date, so I arbitrarily picked this date, years ago, May 16, to celebrate his birthday with him. So happy 77th birthday, Cliff, my true friend.
— ALAN SAVENOR
